Tuesday, October 09, 2007
Mama got a new haircut...
Monday, October 08, 2007
Our Weekend
Friday, October 05, 2007
18 Month Check Up
Lucas's stats are 24 lbs and 11oz, which is 35% among other boys his age. His length is 32 in, which is 45% and his head circumference is 18 and 3/4, which is 50%. I think this is the first time that his head size is ranked higher than his weight and height. They said he's following along the same curve, so all is well.
We had a few questions for Dr. Wiles:
1) Food/Nursing: He said that since Lucas's weight is on the same curve that the only thing we need to be concerned with is if he is getting enough iron. I bet he's not since he doesn't eat meat, cheese, eggs, or iron fortified oatmeal. We will work on that. He'll get his iron levels tested in 6 months.
2) Sharing: Dr. Wiles said that 18 month olds are not supposed to share, so Lucas is normal. He said that by 2yrs old they will care what others think of them. He said they may realize that others don't approve now but just don't really care. We can tell that Lucas is developing in this area because if we scold him, or even just offer guidance, he will usually show us that he's unhappy with this by acting embarrassed or throwing something on the floor.
3) Pushing: Dr. Wiles said that 18 month olds are supposed to be testing their environment, so pushing is completely normal. He said we just need to make sure that Lucas doesn't like the outcome. He suggested time out, but also suggest something more straightforward. He said if Lucas pushes someone then we should tell Lucas that that isn't right and then turn our back to him and give the "victim" our attention. He said Lucas will realize quickly that he doesn't like another child getting his parent's attention over him.
4) Frustration: The other day Lucas was building a tower with Leggos. When it got too tall and fell over Lucas got SO mad. He threw the remaining blocks on the floor, and when that didn't make him feel better, he picked up the entire bucket of blocks, spun around with it, and let it fly. I was watching the whole time and it was hilarious. Dr. Wiles asked us if he could self soothe and after hearing that story he agreed that Lucas knew how to self soothe. We told him that Lucas is going to be the kid throwing his bat in the dugout when he strikes out, just like his mom and dad did when they were little. Dr. Wiles said that you can't run from genes. It was funny... had to be there.
5) Nursing at night and the effect it has on his teeth: They say you shouldn't let a toddler carry a juice cup around all day, or sleep with a bottle at night, because it will rot their teeth. I asked Dr. Wiles if we need to worry about Lucas's teeth because he nurses at night. He said, very nonchalantly, "Yes, it's a concern.". He said it's also a risk that he nurses so frequently during the day... said it's the next worst thing after carrying around a juice box. I asked him if we needed to take Lucas to the dentist every few months to monitor his teeth. He said, "Well, if Lucas were doing something that would risk him breaking his leg, would you continue to take him to the orthopedic?" Haha. He always has a way of making a point.
I don't think we'll alter anything as of now. I still think the benefit of nursing on demand outweighs the risk of tooth decay.
Overall he said Lucas was developing excellently and seemed very happy. Lucas was very friendly during the exam, giving high fives several times, pointing to all of the frogs on the walls, and pushing around a truck as he made vroom-vroom noises. After Dr. Wiles examined him he showed him the sign for "more". He cried very pitifully after his shot, but then gave Nurse Janet a high five and selected a Shrek sticker on the way out.
Thursday, October 04, 2007
18 Months Ago...
I am at a place how where I can't get enough of Lucas. I miss him when he goes to sleep at night and am happy when I hear him call for me when he wakes up... although it is nice to relax with Jeff for a few minutes every night after Lucas goes to sleep! Seriously though, just when I think Lucas can't get any more fun, he surprises me. We are at a time when we are starting to think of expanding our family, but it's hard for me to envision sharing Lucas's time with another baby. I don't want to miss one second of his life. I remember having the same feelings about Tyson, however, and I found more love in my heart... haha.
We have our 18 month well visit tomorrow, so I've been thinking of things that Lucas is doing in case the doctor asks...
Food: Lucas still nurses 1-2 times during the night, in the morning, before his nap, before bedtime and a few short times throughout the day, especially when he sees me after being away for a while. My goodness, I just counted and that is 6 times, which on average every 4 hours. I recall hearing that they go through a heavy nursing phase before they wean... something to do with needing the security to become more independent.
We offer him solid foods at least 3 times a day, but he doesn't eat that much. I'd say on average he takes about 5 bites before he starts to throw it on the floor. I'm interested to see if he's continuing on the same growth curve and what the doctor says about his eating habits.
Sleep: 9-10 hours at night and 3 hours during the day. Wakes 1-2 times at night, usually 1am and 4am.
Words he uses daily: Mama (ma-MUH?), Dad (dah) and hot (hah).
Words he says if prompted: choo-choo, monkey noises, elephant noises, hi, hello (oh?), Tyson (ta-ta), woof-woof, one, two, three
Signs uses almost daily: more, all done, eat, cat, dog, cookie, ice cream, night-night, book, help, ball, elephant, monkey, itsy bitsy spider, head-shoulders-knees-toes song, thank you, hot, bath, water, please, wheels on the bus, cracker, bathroom, friend, swing, play
Games Lucas plays: chase with mom and dad (signs more to initiate the game and then runs away giggling); runs around the kitchen table during dinner hiding behind his high chair on each round; "this is mine" with Tyson and Tyson's green Grinch doll; builds towers with his leggos and gets upset sometimes if they fall before he is ready; it seems he invents a game almost daily... we'll do something that makes him laugh and then he prompts us to do it again and again and again.
Notable things he has done lately:
- handed the ball to a friend at the park, said thank you, and ran away (he needs to learn the sign for "you're welcome")
- He was really tired one evening after playing in the water outside and I had him cuddled up in a towel when he fell asleep. I laid him on our bed with the plan to let him sleep 1/2 hour or so while Jeff and I ate dinner. I slid a water proof blanket under him, in case he went pee-pee. After dinner I told Jeff that I missed him and that we should go wake him up. When we walked into our bedroom Lucas was already sitting up. He looked at us with a big grin and started showing us the bathroom sign over and over. I think what happened is that he peed and was laying in it, so he thought it was funny, but also wanted us to help him.
Hair: We've been talking about getting Lucas a haircut for over a month now. We made an appt a couple of weeks ago and cancelled it at the last minute. I think we're going to try and snip this one piece that is long on his left side on our own. Jeff keeps asking me to do it, but I'm never ready... I feel like we have to record it somehow and never have the cameras near.
Mobility: Lucas runs just about everywhere that he goes.
Sweet Kisses: Lucas usually gives a kiss when we ask for one, although sometimes he shakes his head back and forth. He gives us each a kiss before going to bed... sometimes even Tyson gets one. He gives us a kiss after he does something "wrong", for example, sometimes he gets excited and hits our face and before we can correct him he plants a big smooch on our lips... how can we get mad after that? Little stinker.
More updates tomorrow after his check-up...
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Lucas's New Bedtime Routine
Just like before, we eat dinner and then take Lucas upstairs for a bath. After his bath he runs around naked upstairs until we can wrestle him down to put on his diaper and pj's. Then we go downstairs and read some books in his room. By reading books I mean that Lucas selects a book and brings it to one of us saying "uh, uh", and the sits in our laps. Sometimes he sits still while read the book, but usually he points to all of the things he recognizes on the pages and then turns them quickly... then he's up to select a new book.
Whenever we think it's time, like when he whines or lays in my lap, we ask him if he wants to go night-night in the crib and have some milk. He usually points at the crib and then starts climbing on it. We remind him that he has to turn on his noise maker, which he does after Jeff picks him up. Next he asks for me to hold him and then he leans back to Jeff and gives him a kiss. Then he starts looking for Tyson to wave to him or blow him a kiss. Lucas and I finally get in his crib .
In the crib he nurses for about 10 min and then gets up and leans over the edge of the crib so that he can see the door and yells, "Dahhhhh! Dahhhhhh!". Jeff is waiting for this cue and opens the door. Lucas grins and reaches for him and then does the sign for "eat" and "cracker". The first time he did this we thought he was actually hungry, but now we think it's just a ploy to get to stay up later. After we give him a cracker we let him run around in the living room for about 10 min. After that time he usually gets fussy and we know it's time for bed. We suggest this to Lucas and he runs into his room and starts climbing on the crib again. This time when we get in his crib it only takes about 2 min for him to fall asleep.
Tuesday, October 02, 2007
Wilmington Triathlon
Jeff and Jessi (our workout buddy)
Friday, September 28, 2007
We have family in Raleigh!
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Pullen Park with SaSa and Grandpa
Jeff had to work this morning, so we took Lucas to Pullen Park to ride the boats, train and carousel. He had been on the boats with Ty before, but remember that the pictures showed him being not too sure about them. This time he only made it around one time before he cried to be rescued. He did the sign for "all done". The train and the carousel were a success. After the rides he enjoyed feeding the ducks cheerios. He's such a sweet boy.
He cries out "ma-ma" in this video. I really, really love it when he says this! Usually it's demanding like, "ma-MUH!". He also says "dad", but it sounds like "dahhhh!?".
Monday, September 24, 2007
A Weekend with Daddy
So this is how the weekend went...
I started getting anxious on Friday afternoon. These were some of the thoughts going through my restless mind while trying to go to sleep that night.
Thought #1: "Oh no. What if Lucas starts running a fever. The thermometer needs new batteries... and where is the Tylenol? Mental note - make sure Tylenol is in the cabinet where it should be. Worst case Jeff can go buy some new Tylenol."
Thought #2: "What if Lucas doesn't like the broccoli, carrots, chicken or pear that I washed, cubed, cooked and stored in plastic containers for him? What if he doesn't eat while I'm gone? Worst case Jeff feeds him goldfish all weekend."
Thought #3: "Oh dang, I meant to trim Lucas's fingernails today."
Thought #4: "Did I remember to wash and neatly set out all of the sippy cups?"
Thought #5: "It's after midnight and I have to wake up at 5am!"
Needless to say, I was a nervous nelly all morning. I was secretly hoping that Lucas would wake up sick so that I wouldn't have to go. As I pulled away in the car I realized that I had committed. My heart was so heavy as I flew away from Raleigh towards Atlanta. "How could Lucas survive without me? I shouldn't leave while I'm still nursing. Poor Lucas."
I called Jeff at 10:30am to see how the morning was going. I was so relieved when Jeff told me that they had had a great morning so far. Lucas woke up happy and ate a good breakfast. I asked Jeff if he asked for milk and Jeff said that he was walking around the house with one of my bras doing the sign for "milk". What a smart little guy.
After breakfast they were off to Kindermusik class. Jeff wasn't looking forward to it because he hadn't been to this new class and was afraid it was going to be super cheesy with singing and dancing with other moms and dads. It made me smile when he said that he actually enjoyed the class and that Lucas participated perfectly. The teacher told Jeff that I would be jealous that he did so well without me there. (Remember that there are 3yr olds in the class, so Lucas is learning to sit still and participate with the rest of the older kids). Jeff said it was so cute when Lucas kept reaching for some lady's hand after they did "Ring Around the Rosy".
The rest of the weekend went just as well. Jeff asked Lucas at 12:30 if he was tired and Lucas put his hand on the side of his head to indicate that he was ready for a nap. Jeff said that he was rocking Lucas and stopped because he thought he was asleep. Lucas was still awake, however, and would do the sign for "more" without opening his eyes to tell Jeff he wanted more rocking. That night it got even sweeter. Lucas indicated that he wanted to get in the crib with him by pointing at the crib and doing "more". When Jeff put him in the crib he plopped down on his back and showed Jeff the "more" sign again. Jeff knew that he wanted him to get in the crib with him, so he did. Instead of nursing him, obviously, he rubbed his back and sang to him. Jeff said if he would stop rubbing his back that Lucas would do "more". When he woke up at his usual 1am time Jeff just brought him to our bed and they slept soundly until 7am.
I got home at about noon on Sunday, just in time to put Lucas down for his nap. I had a great weekend with 2 of my best friends from college, Mandy and Lauren. Mandy is getting married on New Year's Eve, so we were throwing her a shower. After I realized that Lucas was fine without me I relaxed and really had a good time. The bonus was that I got to sleep 7 hours straight that night.
Last night Lucas asked Jeff to put him to sleep. I was in shock, but then Jeff brought Lucas out and said that he had gone to the door and said "Mama". Whew!
Friday, September 21, 2007
Daddy's Boy
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Bathroom
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Farmer's Market Breakfast
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
Happy Birthday Tyson!
Saturday, September 15, 2007
Friday, September 14, 2007
Cord Obsession
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Nanny Update
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Silly Lucas
Notice his hair. It's getting pretty long, but not at an even pace. I think we'll get a little trim, mostly to his left side, this weekend. I want it long and shaggy, but it needs to be cleaned up.
Sunday, September 09, 2007
I am Lucas's Mama
One night, after one of those days, I was laying in bed pondering, praying, meditating, thinking... whatever you want to call it. All of a sudden it dawned on me. The words just came into my head, "I am Lucas's Mama." I realized that I can be all of the things that I want to be, but just not all at once. "Life is a marathon, not a sprint" (not sure who said this). I will have a perfectly clean house one day, but it may not be until all of the kids have moved out of the house. I can volunteer in my community one day, just not that much right now. I can go on week long trips with my husband to places we dream of visiting, just not right now. I can call all of my friends that I haven't talked to in months, just maybe not this week. Right now I am Lucas's mama and that is my priority. Lucas won't need as much of my attention one day, probably sooner than I really want, and I'll have time to be good at some of my other roles.
I'm sure that everyone reading this feels the same way sometimes. May you find comfort in knowing that you're not alone.
Friday, September 07, 2007
One, Twooooo, THREE!
Jeff and I have a somewhat dangerous (but fun) game that we've created with Lucas. It started when he and Jeff took swimming lessons. Jeff would sit him on the side of the pool and count to three and then Lucas would jump to him. Lucas took this game out of the pool and would jump in our arms anytime he was sitting on the edge of a surface. Now Lucas counts along with us and then jumps. He does it at the playground when he is standing at the top of the slide (we're working on teaching him to slide down instead), when he is sitting on the kitchen island, and when he is standing on the couch.
Last night we were in the process of putting post-bath diaper and PJ's on. Lucas had run out of his room and was in the family room with Jeff and Tyson. I came around the corner just in time to see Jeff sitting with his back against the couch watching t.v., Tyson laying beside him, and Lucas standing on the couch behind him. As I rounded the corner I heard Lucas say, "Uh, ooooooohh", and then as I heard "EE!" I saw my naked son, with his arms raised high in the air, free fall from the couch down right on top of his brother, Tyson. If there had been judges present he would have gotten a perfect 10 for his form. Unfortunately there were no judges there, but we were happy that Tyson was there to break his fall (sorry Tyson). We thought Lucas knew that we had to be paying attention when he started counting... guess not. Hopefully he learned his lesson, although there weren't many tears, so maybe not.
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
17 Month Pictures
It wasn't intentional, but we took the boys for pics yesterday on Lucas's 17 month old birthday. I have never done this with Lucas, so it was interesting. There were two people from the studio - one taking the pictures and one making the kids laugh. There were lots of toy props for the boys to play with, and the people were pretty fast, so I think we may try it again.
Lucas is so hilarious to Jeff and me right now. He's either running around giggling, screaming, and acting like a nut, or he's very serious. I said it before and I'll say it again, Lucas is "very" everything. We just love our 17 month old turkey. We've been saying lately, "Lucas is so cool". He is his own little person with his own thoughts, emotions, agendas and ideas. We're really enjoying this age.
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
Sunday, September 02, 2007
Pullen Park
Jenn playing with the boys.















